I'se Married Now *in my color purple voice*

Okay so I'm not really married but unfortunately I've come down with the fever: yellow fever. Dammit I swore I was going to get vaccinated after Ethan but I forgot. I swore all the Chinese men off just like bitter women do after a breakup. It's been 3 months so I guess it's time to move on.

My girl who is a housewife ( what I will be) introduced me to her husband's friend. They were waiting outside and he took my hand kissed it and walked me to their section. We are talking and laughing having a good time. Then he whispers I like you. An hour later I meet some of his friends and he introduces me as his wife. Unfortunately my face said what the fuck? I quickly changed it and smiled and said a few Chinese words. I shrugged it off cause I figured he was drunk. Afterwards we take a walk in the park and he takes me home and doesn't try me!!!!!!!
So he's been calling me his wife ever since. I doubled check to make sure he knows my name and the translation for wife. Again with Chinese men there's no bullshitting. If they like you 4real, there all the way in. He's extremely sweet and very old fashioned. He gives me roses, sweet messages etc. the stuff that makes you feel all girly and shit. (Trying to be less thug and more girly bare with me.) All his friends love me.I was raised by strong black women so I know how to serve a man. He always makes sure I'm straight so I have no problem serving him. When I was putting food on his plate and pouring his drinks his friends told me I was a perfect wife. I was thinking well actually I'm not a wife at all but okay. They all know me as dan's wife" ( he has a Extra Chinese name so we will call him Dan)

Our relationship is quite different from me and Ethan. Yes I'm comparing, don't judge me. Ethan def wasn't romantic, no flowers etc. The first time we met we both peed in bushes together. Ethan and I did have a lot of free personal time together. Dan has an assistant and a driver so it's always a group. Dan is mr. I'll send somebody. When I go to the bathroom someone escorts me. He always send someone or something to take his place or a gift so I can't complain. It's hard cause he's ALWAYS working and I work 6 days out the week so when he's traveling I can't see him. I can see why housewives start fucking the pool boy now. Lol. I've been a good wife, after work I come home. No parties etc. Trying to improve my cooking skills and work on my businesses.
Dan is great and I take it day by day. The hardest thing is to try to give your heart to someone after countless disappointments. So I tell myself love like I never been hurt. Even when I want to jap, I ask myself if my ex didn't do that would I even think that? Hell I'm 28 I gotta let go of my fear and settle down.

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Location:I'se marry now *color purple voice*

Everyone loves a Brown Girl

Usually the most asked question I get is how do the men treat you? How is it over there? Are they racist? Etc. With this post I will 100 percent honest (as if I'm never am) and just try to address all racial questions that is usually asked.
Before I moved to China, I was extremely worried that people would hate me because I'm Black. Just like everyone else my only experience with the Asian culture was being followed around the store by one. I was also very ignorant to the fact that its completely different races: Chinese, Japanese, Korean,Vietnamese, Thai, etc. Were almost brainwashed to think as if they are all the same. I would say in America you are reminded of your color far more than most places.
I'm sure everyone may not be treated the same but I can only give account on what I've experienced. Overall being black in China has been a 95 percent positive experience. For my first year here, I kept thinking to myself why are these people so nice to me? Maybe they don't know I'm Black! I live in Jinan, Shandong and that place is known to be a city with the nicest people in China. Some people here say " No, you're not black, you're brown." Other people say you just a foreigner. I can honestly say I haven't experienced racism here.
Now when it comes to relationships I heard people say " Chinese men don't like black women." I also heard that they just want to fuck you." So I'm just going to keep it real. Sure some man just want to hit it. That's just some men are about regardless of race. I also would say I've met 2 different men parents who wanted to MARRY me. So clearly I killed that stereotype and if it was up to someone else I would be married at this moment.


Now of course I've been approached on Chinese social sites by strangers asking me How much do you charge for sex? I usually respond "the same price your mother charges. " Then that conversation is over. I've had guys who tried to get me drunk (which is impossible) and think the panties will slide down so again certain things happen everywhere. For the most part, I feel like they adore me. When you're out with them, it's all about you. They order everything on the menu for you. They always keep your glass full, open doors etc. In the club, they don't even talk to you without buying a drink. I've had guys buy bottles for me and my friends said were were beautiful and walked away. One thing about me I'm fun to be around. Life is short and if I die in the next 5 mins I'm be leaving this world having fun. Chinese men love girls who just want to have fun.
Most of you know I was also in a serious relationship with a Chinese man named Ethan. Never and I mean never did I think I would fall for a Chinese guy. We were in a Real relationship. Holding hands, kissing in public type relationship. He bought my family gifts. Sometimes when you click with someone it has no color. I never dated outside my race until I came here. I also never loved a guy the way I love Ethan and I'm having the hardest time getting over it and that's all the way real.


I also took the liberty to ask a few males about what they thought about foreign women. One friend said it was his dream to have a foreign girlfriend because they are so "free and fun" He said he wouldn't marry her because she wouldn't want to live in china forever. (Atleast he's honest with himself)
Friend number two said he wants a foreign girlfriend then proceeded to put his hand in my thigh. I told him nigga please because he may be Chinese but trust he's a nigga. He said he would marry their if their parents would agree. He has no objection marrying a foreign and said he would prefer to marry one.
I asked friend number 3 about black women and he said I was brown not black. So then I said okay " what's your opinion about brown women. He gave some I'm running for president answer like color doesn't matter bullshit, we all are the same. But the crazy part he really believes that. I hope he never goes to America a cause he's losing his life immediatly.
My last friend said he would date a foreign girl but wouldn't marry her cause he prefers chinese and his parents wouldn't agree. He said he's intimated by them In The bedroom. Judging by his hands he should be. Again another reason why I like Chinese people is because they are very honest with themselves and other people.

Location:Jinan,China